Let’s face it – no one is born a great husband or wife. But it’s something that we can learn since marriage is a journey and a process of development. However, something has gone terribly wrong in our society today and part of that is that people no longer know how to value their marriage. While marriage is supposedly a beautiful event between two individuals, divorce seems like a growing trend. Today, approximately 50 percent of American marriages end up in divorce, and the rate is continuously rising.
Because of this, a lot of individuals are now considering prenuptial agreements before getting married. While prenuptial agreements are mostly popular among celebrities because of their lifestyle, more and more people today are opting to sign forms for prenup agreement before taking their vows. Even teachers, nurses, salesmen, and small business owners are signing these forms.
What is a Prenuptial Agreement?
Prenuptial agreement, also known as premarital agreement or simply prenup, is a written contract made by two people before they marry. The content of prenuptial agreement can vary from couple to couple, but usually, it involves property and support issues. Prenup agreements can set forth what will happen to your assets, properties, and future earnings in case of divorce, death, or separation.
Prenuptial agreements are gaining popularity in the U.S. today for a variety of reasons. First, they are able to protect the property and financial assets of individuals. Second, they make sure that their property will go to their own children or family in case of separation – this is particularly common when the other person has children from a former marriage. And most importantly, prenuptial agreements enable individuals to control their own assets. Many prenuptial agreements are signed because couples do not want to experience the hassle of dealing with complicated legal processes, such as letting the court decide how to divide their property should the marriage end.
While prenuptial agreements are becoming common today, most Christians, if not all, are not in favor in this type of agreement. Prenuptial agreements are completely outside the Christians’ vision of marriage. God intended marriage to be permanent and lasting as long as the couple is alive. When two Christians get married, they should commit to the marriage and have a strong faith that the marriage will last, no matter what happens. For Christians, signing a prenup agreement is like planning a wedding and a divorce. As what they say, a couple that prepares for the possibility of separation is headed toward it.
When two people marry, they become one. As the Scriptures say, “…a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24, NIV)
When a man and a woman become one, it means they both share everything they have. For instance, if the husband has $2 million dollars in his bank account and the wife only has $200,000 when they marry, both of them now have that $2.2 million dollars. It doesn’t mean dividing the money in half, with both of them receiving $1.1 million dollars each. They both share everything they have.
Sure, there’s nothing wrong with prenup agreements. Actually, they are even beneficial for individuals as they give them peace of mind regarding the status of their assets. In today’s society, prenuptial agreements are even considered necessary. But of course, we can’t debate with other people, especially with Christians, regarding their view about this type of agreement. Marriage is a sacred thing and it should be taken seriously. As what Christians say, if you can’t trust your future spouse about your money, how can you trust him or her with your life, family, and future?